From Your Past

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Who from your past are you still trying to earn the acceptance of*

I know that there is still someone from my past whose acceptance I am trying to earn. This person is him: an individual I loved deeply during my senior high school years, despite his rejection and hurtful words. I often wonder why I loved him so much back then. Even though he said rude things to me, I never responded in kind.  For example, he commented that my body was fat and covered in acne, and he bullied me constantly. My best friend repeatedly advised me to stop loving him, as he clearly never reciprocated my feelings.

I have been trying to talk to myself, urging myself to forgive that era or my life, forgive him, and accept my own foolishness in the past. However, it is incredibly difficult. In my heart, I still want to say the things I have never expressed to him before. Perhaps I need to confront these feelings:

I want to say: I hate you! I never really love you even in the past. I hate you. Really-really hate you! You are the worst thing that happened in my life. I hate you! 

In conclusion, this unresolved emotion shows how past relationship can linger, affecting our present. While I strive for acceptance and forgiveness, the pain remains a challenge. 

*) Brianna Wiest 101 Essays that will Change the way You Think (p. 140)