Letters to Myself

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If I had the love I wanted, what would today look like?*

I am somewhat confused about this topic. as many thoughts are swirling in my mind. However, reflecting on it. I believe that of I had the love I desired, my day would be filled with happiness, routine, and deep emotional connection. Let me outline what a such a day might look like. 

In the morning, I would wake up feeling content, seeing my partner beside me. I would kiss his forehead and say, "Good morning, honey," or perhaps he would do the same to me. We would pray shubuh together, fostering a sense of shared spiritually. He would then prepare for work while I got ready for breakfast. We would eat together, engaging in light conversation about our plans for the day. Before he left,  he would kiss my forehead, leaving me with a warm feeling. 

Throughout the day,  I would tidy up our home, write on my blog about our love story, read a book to nurture my personal interests. In the evening, before he arrived home, I would send him a text saying, "Miss you." Upon his return, he might bring me a red flower as a small gesture of affection. After he showered, we would have dinner together, pray isya as a couple, and share stories from our day, strengthening our bond.

In conclusion, this idealized day represents the harmony and fulfillment that true love could bring. While I am still figuring out my feelings on this topic, it highlights the importance of emotional intimacy in daily life. 

*) Brianna Wiest 101 Essays that will Change the way You Think (p. 138)

What is that one thing you have always wanted to do but could not?

Sebenarnya ini bisa dilakukan sih, tapi aku memilih untuk tidak karena banyak sekali pertimbangan. Apa itu? Jadi full time writer. Kenapa gak bisa? Karena ya butuh effort yang besar dan konsisten kan untuk bisa menghasilkan uang dari karya kita? Sementara di awal-awal dan ini udah jadi rahasia umum, pasti tulisan kita belum bisa menghasilkan uang. Pengen banget gitu jadi full time writer,  diem di rumah, sesekali nulis di kafe, baca buku. Tapi untuk saat ini itu belum bisa. Aku masih perlu kerja yang lain untuk bisa menghidupi diri aku seorang. Jadi aku menulis hanya untuk sampingan dan menyalurkan hobi serta isi kepala yang berisik. 

Kalau kamu gimana?

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Who from your past are you still trying to earn the acceptance of*

I know that there is still someone from my past whose acceptance I am trying to earn. This person is him: an individual I loved deeply during my senior high school years, despite his rejection and hurtful words. I often wonder why I loved him so much back then. Even though he said rude things to me, I never responded in kind.  For example, he commented that my body was fat and covered in acne, and he bullied me constantly. My best friend repeatedly advised me to stop loving him, as he clearly never reciprocated my feelings.

I have been trying to talk to myself, urging myself to forgive that era or my life, forgive him, and accept my own foolishness in the past. However, it is incredibly difficult. In my heart, I still want to say the things I have never expressed to him before. Perhaps I need to confront these feelings:

I want to say: I hate you! I never really love you even in the past. I hate you. Really-really hate you! You are the worst thing that happened in my life. I hate you! 

In conclusion, this unresolved emotion shows how past relationship can linger, affecting our present. While I strive for acceptance and forgiveness, the pain remains a challenge. 

*) Brianna Wiest 101 Essays that will Change the way You Think (p. 140)

How is your life today? Write three good things and three areas of improvement.

Hidup saat ini baik-baik saja. Meski jauh dari kata ideal bagi standar masyarakat kita, tapi aku tidak peduli. Aku tidak hidup untuk membungkam mulut mereka, karena itu di luar kendaliku jadi aku hanya akan fokus pada hal yang bisa aku kendalikan.

3 hal baik dalam hidupku

1. Masih bisa bekerja

Alhamdulillah masih bisa bekerja walaupun gajinya belum dua dijit ya. Hahaa. Tapi ini masih sangat aku syukuri, karena selain dapat gaji juga pekerjaan ini membantu aku untuk bisa improve skill aku di bagian mengajar dan bahasa Inggris.

2. Tinggal bersama orang tua

Meski selalu ada cek coknya tapi ya begitulah hidup bersama orang tua/keluarga. Aku bersyukur masih bisa tinggal bersama mereka di tengah-tengah perjuangan aku untuk bisa sembuh dari depressive episode. 

3. Lingkungan kerja yang suportif

Aku sangat senang dan bersyukur karena lingkungan kerjaku saat ini sangat suportif, tidak saling sikut, dan hanya fokus pada pertumbuhan diri masing-masing. Selain itu, lingkungannya masih saling mengingatkan untuk ibadah. 

3 hal yang harus aku tingkatkan

1. Skill bahasa Inggris aku.

Jujur skill bahasa Inggris aku masih mentok di level B1-B2. Mau ke C1 rasanya butuh effort yang besar, tapi aku tetap belajar agar bisa sampai ke level itu. Semangat

2. Belajar tentang sidehustle

Karena gajiku hanya cukup untuk makan, jajan dan kebutuhan pribadi, aku harus putar otak untuk bisa menambah penghasilan aku di jam pagi sampai siang. Saat ini aku sedang mencoba untuk melamar di luar zona nyaman aku: mengajar. Hihiii Semangat juga, Ihat.

3. Rajin olahraga dan makan sayur serta buah

Ini nih, masih harus terus ditingkatkan. Meski tiap pagi suka sepedahan, cuma intensitasnya harus ditambah setiap harinya ya. Biar badan sehat dan melepaskan stres atau emosi-emosi yang membelenggu hehheee. Makan sayur sama buahnya harus sering juga, okay. 

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If you didn't have to work anymore, what would you do with your days?*

If I didn't have to work anymore, I would spend my days reading numerous books and writing on my blog. This question reminds me of one of my dreams: becoming a full time mom or housewife after getting married someday. I would quit my job, stay at home, take care of my children, read extensively, and continue writing on my blog. LOL

Besides that, I would take IELTS lessons, create basic English lesson videos, enjoy my mornings and evenings with a cup of coffee, get more sleep, read, and learn Qur'an as much as possible. These activities stem from my dreams and imagination, allowing me to purse personal growth and relaxation. 

However, in reality, I love working and I think I can't live without it. For instance, during one- week holiday when I did whatever I wanted, I gradually became bored. Work provides structure and purpose to my life. 

In conclusion, while my ideas days would focus on family, learning, and creativity, I value the balance that work brings.

What about you?

*) Brianna Wiest 101 Essays that Will Change the way You Think (p. 140)